Dating a separated man is the same as dating a married man. Have you ever thought that the woman may have no idea that her marriage is over?
Recently I met a man who told me he was separated from his wife. I didn’t think anything of it because each case can be different. In fact, I dated a separated man in the past that actually was granted the divorce. But in this case, something didn’t feel right. His behavior was pretty consistent up until the day he vanished from thin air with no prelude warnings. Disappearing acts are total red flags to me.
To make a long story short, something serious happened to his wife. And like the husband he needed to be, he was by her side like he was suppose to. As he explained what happened, the trigger that thrust me back into reality was when he said “wife”. It was a total rude awakening and up until this point, I’ve never heard him say it. This confirmed that his obligations are to her, as they should be. It made me realize that I need to take a back seat on this one and clearly there are some unresolved issues in that relationship that I would rather not be a part of.
With that said, married or separated, you take a great risk of giving your heart to a man that is still married to another woman. And if it goes past a couple of years and still separated and not divorced, maybe he’s still married because he doesn’t want a divorce yet. As for the issue of “separated” guys, there’s always the possibility that the guy will go back to his wife. Your best bet is to leave married people alone to work out their differences without interferences from you.
Take care of yourselves. =)