As we get older, the pressures of our peers and society tells single ladies that we MUST get married by a certain age. Unfortunately, if you fall victim to peer pressure you might unknowingly come across as desperate when dating. Desperate actions may consists of requiring or expecting him to do unrealistic things in the short time frame that you’ve been dating or setting ridiculous deadlines for when he HAS to propose to you. All of these things are fine if that’s what you believe in; and by all means stick to your guns. Be aware and non judgmental though that some of us don’t think like that. Rushing what could potentially be BS, is sometimes not what some people like to do. You never know. Maybe the next day you’ll get swept off your feet by another man you met standing in line at McDonalds; or you bump into an old friend who you instantly reconnect with and now you two want to spend the rest of your lives together. Or what if the guy you’re currently taking your time with happens to be the “ONE”.
In short, if you enjoy being with him, keep having a good time. You never know what the future holds. Don’t worry about all these labels and deadlines everyone else sets. Good luck!
March 16th, 2010 at 8:26 am
This is truth talk right here. I was speaking to a friend yesterday and we remarked how it seems that no matter what you accomplish personally and/or professionally society looks at you like you have failed if a you have not been married (regardless of the longevity of the union) by the time you hit your early to mid thirties. My eloquent reply? “Eff that!” If anyone puts their mind to it that no matter what they want to be married in the next year it will happen. Yes, even you. It may or may not turn out to be a good union but hey, you will be married. I use that example to say that getting married is no real accomplishment. Having a loving and successful marriage is. Being single is not a curse or a failure. If you are single and happy dont let people heap their pity on you. Smile and take yourself out to dinner. If you are single and unhappy, finding a man/woman is not going to change that for you. Look into yourself and work on whats missing. If you are in a relationship and unhappy, leave that loser alone. No additional comment needed. If you are in a relationship and happy, I am happy for you and pray blessings on your union. No matter what your situation, define it for yourself, not through “society’s eyes.”
March 17th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yup! I always go to dinners by myself and its actually very fun! Thank you for agreeing with me. Your appreciation means ALOT not only on a friendship level, but on a well studied doctor level that you are. Thanks alot…. =)