Sometimes I get tired of getting advice about MEN from other women. Women naturally are designed to be nurturing and caring human beings, so for the most part, they won’t say anything to hurt your feelings. Its almost like we have a secret “Girl Power Team” against the “Evil Forces” of the MEN. So with that said, I decided to ask MEN their thoughts about women having sex on the first date. A lot of responses came in both on the good and bad side. I must admit, the response that resonated with me came from MrMontgomery. He believed that if you really liked the woman, it doesn’t matter.
I can believe in that. The only problem is how many MEN are you going to sleep with on the first date in HOPES that he really likes you at the end of the day? The risk seems to great, but I get his point.
The Epiphany Sessions: A Meeting of the Sexes on Why We Cheat
Have you cheated or been cheated on in a relationship? Join as we discuss what causes cheating to happen and how to start over once it happens. We have some great panelists coming to give the real and honest answers.
July 23,2010
595 North Event Facility
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According to TMZ, this is who they claim is the infamous “Big Pappa”. Honestly, if this is him, he sort of looks exactly how I pictured. Tanned, laid back, cool- looking dude.
So I’m trying to be a grown up and do this “being friends with the ex”. To be honest, I do really NOT like it. He’s a good person and I appreciate him stomaching the energy to finally call me, but what’s the point? We didn’t start off as friends? Feels like I’m setting myself up for awkward moments and situations in the future. I can respect the fact that he wants this feng shui type layout of his ex-girlfriends, but not all people work in that order. I’m at the point in my life where I eliminate what doesn’t make me happy. So if I wanted a relationship with you and you didn’t, then DELETE like people on your Facebook with annoying updates.
Some peoples dating relationships are as clear as the difference between night and day. Either your together or not together. And if you’re not together, why pretend like this friendship thing is going to work if one party still has feelings. All your doing is setting yourself up for that uncomfortable meeting or seeing of the new boy/girlfriend. Personally, it’s just better to eliminate the ex and make room for other suitors.
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Tongue & Groove will host a launch Party for “Love Sex & Deception: The Chronicles of Online Dating” on June 25th. Atlanta’s trendy singles will enjoy a glass of champagne, hors d’overs, and a fashion show to die for featuring the latest trends in lingerie and swimwear. Guests will not only receive a copy of the book, but enjoy mixing and mingling with fabulous vendors. Spa samplings, lingerie, and botox are just a few of the surprises we have in store. The first 100 guests will receive swag bags filled with exciting gifts!
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Catching up and having good conversations over Star beers, Gulders, and vintage liquor is always fun with my family in Nigeria. In the mist of good conversations, my cousin asks my opinion about a guy she’s seeing that has this “best” friend that’s a woman. This happens in Nigeria to? The female best friend thing seems to be a problem around the world. Honestly, I’m not sure how you would approach the female “best friend” scenario. I totally understand the women who feel uncomfortable with the situation. The last thing you want to feel like is the 2nd class girlfriend or at the alter and your fiance says “On second thought…. I’m in love with my best friend.” I guess the best way to approach a situation like this is to analyze how long they’ve been best friends and compare that to when you came in the picture. Always remember, you’re the “random” girl in her eyes until she gets to know you. And if he’s displaying girlfriend antics towards her, I would totally second guess the relationship. Besides, there are like 3,399,969 other men in the world. Don’t get hung up in a situation you don’t feel comfortable in.
Today I finished working with the executive producer and director of a new pilot show being filmed in Atlanta called “Quest For Companionship.” The film and casting crew were all very nice people. Well in the mist of shooting of course I had to get my opinions of dating in Atlanta. Enjoy!
I’ve got a funny story and it only occurred to me after talking to a fellow Yelper about this thread. The first girl I ever met online and actually went on a date with was a Georgia State grad student. She was nice, but we weren’t exactly compatible. We went on only one date and I decided she really wasn’t for me. Then one day, she saw in my GChat status message that I was planning on going to the Georgia Tech vs. Georgia State basketball game later that night. I am a Tech grad, die-hard Tech sports fan, have season tickets to men’s basketball games, and go to every home game. Anyway, she saw my status message and invited herself to the game with me!
So later that night, she drove to my place and we went to the game together. I did NOT want to sit in my regular seats because I did not want any of my fellow season ticket holders, friends, and/or co-workers to spot me with this new girl and start asking me about her, talking about her, etc. I took her down to the student section to blend in. Well, lo and behold, at the first or second timeout of the game, we were put on the freaking Jumbotron on KISS CAM! I saw us on the Jumbotron and immediately pretended I didn’t know what the hell was going on. Luckily, she was so enthralled by the cheerleaders on the court, she never looked up and saw us. I was so unbelievably embarrassed and the entire coliseum let out a loud “BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!” because I didn’t kiss her. Great!
The next day at work, my boss (another season ticket holder who was at the game), asked me, “Dan, my wife said she swore she saw you on Kiss Cam last night, but I only got a glance. Was that you!?” Me: “Uh, no.”
Being from San Jose, I never thought interracial dating was a big deal. I’ve noticed while dating in Atlanta, its not as open or accepted. I get the non black guys that are nervous to approach me, but want to, or the ones that’ll date you until its time to meet their family. I’ve tried to wrap my brain around why people still think in a primitive manner, but can’t. It’s a good thing I don’t understand it because if I did, I would be like them. The only thing I could come up with is the fact that segregation didn’t really end to long ago if you think about it. And a lot of it happened in The South. Some of the first signs of making segregation illegal were Brown vs. Board of Education- May 17, 1954; with laws in between dating up to President Lyndon B. Johnson signing the Civil Rights Act of 1968. So that’s only about 42 years ago. So in a sense, it doesn’t surprise me that we still have people thinking with their 1960’s brain.
In short, take people for who they are. If you enjoy being with that person and he/she makes you happy, never mind race. You could be that breakage in the link that ties people to ignorance.
A good friend of mine decided to create a video blog about the good and career orientated black men in Atlanta. She pretty much got tired of hearing women complain over and over about there not being any great men. Personally, I think you should learn to interracially date, but this isn’t about me. So, she’s decided to introduce her male friends to the world via video blog and show Atlanta that there are nice, responsible, artistic, interesting, and great black men in Atlanta. Stay tuned…..
