Sometimes I get tired of getting advice about MEN from other women. Women naturally are designed to be nurturing and caring human beings, so for the most part, they won’t say anything to hurt your feelings. Its almost like we have a secret “Girl Power Team” against the “Evil Forces” of the MEN. So with that said, I decided to ask MEN their thoughts about women having sex on the first date. A lot of responses came in both on the good and bad side. I must admit, the response that resonated with me came from MrMontgomery. He believed that if you really liked the woman, it doesn’t matter.

I can believe in that. The only problem is how many MEN are you going to sleep with on the first date in HOPES that he really likes you at the end of the day? The risk seems to great, but I get his point.

The Epiphany Sessions:    A Meeting of the Sexes on Why We Cheat

Have you cheated or been cheated on in a relationship? Join as we discuss what causes cheating to happen and how to start over once it happens. We have some great panelists coming to give the real and honest answers.

July 23,2010

595 North Event Facility

DOORS OPEN AT 6:30PM & ALL MEN ARE FREE BEFORE 7PM

Make sure to visit our vendors!

Hosted by Bobby Rouse author of the Essence article “No Love for Mr. Nice”

For all media requests and vendor opportunities please email epiphanysession@live.com

RSVP HERE

Get Ready to Unlock Your Possibilities!

It’s Time To Get Out Of The House! You work hard all week, but you need to get up, get out of the house and DO something fun!   If you stay home then you better just hope the pizza delivery person is your soul mate.  Get up, get out of the house, try different things, and meet new people!   Best way to do all that in one fun night… attend this Lock and Key Event.  You never know who you might meet at the London Bistro Lounge!

HOW THE PARTY WORKS!

Women get locks, Men get keys.  Find a match and get a ticket for the prize drawing.  The more tickets you have the better your chance to win a prize!  Find someone interesting, stay and talk for a bit!  Exchange contact info if you like… we’ll supply the paper and pencils!

It’s time to increase your social circle in one fun, fast paced night.  You never know who you might meet, so don’t miss it!

Suggested Ages: Black Singles 24-49

July 10, 2010

7:00 PM – 9:00 PM

REGISTER HERE

So I’m trying to be a grown up and do this “being friends with the ex”. To be honest, I do really NOT like it. He’s a good person and I appreciate him stomaching the energy to finally call me, but what’s the point? We didn’t start off as friends? Feels like I’m setting myself up for awkward moments and situations in the future. I can respect the fact that he wants this feng shui type layout of his ex-girlfriends, but not all people work in that order. I’m at the point in my life where I eliminate what doesn’t make me happy. So if I wanted a relationship with you and you didn’t, then DELETE like people on your Facebook with annoying updates.

Some peoples dating relationships are as clear as the difference between night and day. Either your together or not together. And if you’re not together, why pretend like this friendship thing is going to work if one party still has feelings. All your doing is setting yourself up for that uncomfortable meeting or seeing of the new boy/girlfriend. Personally, it’s just better to eliminate the ex and make room for other suitors.

Have you ever had a date arrive dressed as Elvis and it wasn’t Halloween?  How about that handsome guy who said, “I’m divorced” but failed to mention he’s now remarried?  We are a mother and daughter who have dated online, compared our notes on “internet frogs,” …. and actually survived!  Reality is the best education, as seen in the humorous anecdotal stories of singles who expose “the real” cyber scene. Learn how to be a savvy shopper online with strategies to protect your most important investment–your affection, trust and time!

Claire Hultin is the author of “The Doctrine of Lucid Dreaming.” She is a freelance writer for Tao Entertainment.  She resides in Los Angeles, California.
Lisa Hultin graduated with a telecommunications degree from Liberty University.  She works as a freelance writer for Tao Entertainment and LoveSexandDeception.com. She resides in Atlanta, Georgia.

Tongue & Groove will host a launch Party for “Love Sex & Deception: The Chronicles of Online Dating” on June 25th.  Atlanta’s trendy singles will enjoy a glass of champagne, hors d’overs, and a fashion show to die for featuring the latest trends in lingerie and swimwear.  Guests will not only receive a copy of the book, but enjoy mixing and mingling with fabulous vendors.  Spa samplings, lingerie, and botox are just a few of the surprises we have in store.  The first 100 guests will receive swag bags filled with exciting gifts!

Tongue & Groove
June 25, 2010, 7:30pm-10:00pm
Pre-Registration Tickets: $15 
Door Tickets: $20 
*Tickets include a copy of the book, entertainment and drinks specials—> Purchase Tickets: HERE

* Ticket includes free cover to T&G

Never Go Shopping When You’re Hungry
If you shop for food when you’re stomach is rumbling, everything in the supermarket looks good. Everything is appetizing when you’re dying of starvation.  If you’re hungry enough, you will eat  junk; things that are entirely devoid of nutritional content. Dating is similar, in that when you’re unhappy with who you are, you’re more likely to date junk, and conduct entire relationships that are devoid of emotional content. We all make better decisions about who to love when we aren’t starved for affection. Liking yourself is the start to being liked by someone, and being happy with who you are is the only way to become part of a happy couple. So before you go love someone else, fill up on love for yourself!

Pick Strawberries
It’s important to live and love with as little fear as possible. Life is short, and often painful.  You can’t predict the future and you can’t change the past. Try not to allow past pain or future uncertainty to keep you from enjoying the present.  Ideal circumstances rarely happen to people, but ideal people can happen to circumstances. Say and do the things that really matter to you today without hesitation, because you never know if you’re going to get another chance.  Your life is now. When strawberries present themselves, pick them.

Recognize Your Teachers
The Universe has a twisted sense of humor. Whatever blessing you ask of it, it will present you with the appropriate tools needed to develop in you the qualities you require to attain that which you seek.  Ask for love and The Universe will laugh, and whisper ‘Are you ready?’, knowing full well that you are not. It will scrape away your preconceptions, strip you down to your bare essence, and then it will point, and laugh.  The Universe wants you to become an individual worthy of it’s greatest gifts, so it will send you teachers. When relationships don’t work out, try to learn the lessons well enough not to repeat your mistakes, and then forget it all just enough to be open to making new mistakes. Remember, the Universe is preparing you to be part of something delicious.

Don’t Settle For Less than You Deserve
You accept only the highest standards for your job, your friends, your home. Why enforce a lower standard for your love life? Not everyone can afford a BMW, and not every man can be with you.  Be reasonable, be realistic, but never underestimate your intrinsic worth. The second you settle for less than you deserve, you deserve what you settled for.

Great Sex Reinforces Love
Great sex is to a relationship as oxygen is to air, in that it is a necessary, but not dominant component. Prolonged exposure to pure oxygen causes brain damage, but deprive the body of oxygen for even a few minutes and you’d die. Similarly, a relationship comprised of nothing but sex is ultimately toxic, but without it, relationships lose their fire and begin to die. Sexual chemistry is a powerful thing, so try to only form those kinds of bonds with someone you genuinely care for. The best sex in the world will isn’t reason enough to become romantically involved with someone who’s not right for you. Remember, it’s not what’s between your legs, it’s what’s between your ears.

By: Jackie Summers

The first date always comes with much anticipated shaky nerves. Where you’re going? What to say or not to say? And the most importantly….. WHAT TO WEAR!  Well, I’ve come up with 5 solutions to lock in that second date.

1) Exude confidence
2) Summer dresses are very forgiving for any shape, so, I suggest a bright long/short summer dress.

3) A cute romper

4) For the edgy chick, try cut out jeans and a tank top. If you want to soften up the look, try a frilly top.

5) If heels aren’t your thing, make them! Wear heels with a defined arch. Wedges are a hit!

Provided by: Single in Atlanta Fashionista “Tish”

Catching up and having good conversations over Star beers, Gulders, and vintage liquor is always fun with my family in Nigeria. In the mist of good conversations, my cousin asks my opinion about a guy she’s seeing that has this “best” friend that’s a woman. This happens in Nigeria to? The female best friend thing seems to be a problem around the world. Honestly, I’m not sure how you would approach the female “best friend” scenario. I totally understand the women who feel uncomfortable with the situation. The last thing you want to feel like is the 2nd class girlfriend or at the alter and your fiance says “On second thought…. I’m in love with my best friend.” I guess the best way to approach a situation like this is to analyze how long they’ve been best friends and compare that to when you came in the picture. Always remember, you’re the “random” girl in her eyes until she gets to know you. And if he’s displaying girlfriend antics towards her, I would totally second guess the relationship. Besides, there are like 3,399,969 other men in the world. Don’t get hung up in a situation you don’t feel comfortable in.

Today I finished working with the executive producer and director of a new pilot show being filmed in Atlanta called “Quest For Companionship.” The film and casting crew were all very nice people. Well in the mist of shooting of course I had to get my opinions of dating in Atlanta. Enjoy!

Being from San Jose, I never thought interracial dating was a big deal. I’ve noticed while dating in Atlanta, its not as open or accepted. I get the non black guys that are nervous to approach me, but want to, or the ones that’ll date you until its time to meet their family. I’ve tried to wrap my brain around why people still think in a primitive manner, but can’t. It’s a good thing I don’t understand it because if I did, I would be like them. The only thing I could come up with is the fact that segregation didn’t really end to long ago if you think about it. And a lot of it happened in The South. Some of the first signs of making segregation illegal were Brown vs. Board of Education- May 17, 1954; with laws in between dating up to President Lyndon B. Johnson signing the Civil Rights Act of 1968. So that’s only about 42 years ago. So in a sense, it doesn’t surprise me that we still have people thinking with their 1960’s brain.

In short, take people for who they are. If you enjoy being with that person and he/she makes you happy, never mind race. You could be that breakage in the link that ties people to ignorance.